February 20, 2019

Good Babies VS Bad Babies

"Is she a good baby?"

I can't tell you how many times I've been asked that question since having Lux. Everyone asks that question. Complete strangers ask that question. When they ask if she's a "good baby" they of course want to know; Does she cry a lot? Does she sleep throughout the night? Is she very fussy?Well, what if she does cry a lot? What if she is up all night? Does that mean I have a bad baby?

No. It doesn't.

It bothers me that people categorize babies in this way. If you tell them "oh, my baby is colicky" you're met with a look as if they feel sorry for you and insist that there must be something wrong with your baby. What some people fail to realize is that it isn't the baby's fault. They can't help that their bellies hurt or that they're so overtired they don't know what to do with themselves. Sure it gets frustrating but this is all part of the package. They need to be soothed and comforted. Not treated like there's something wrong with them.

Last week Lux had a doctors appointment to get her two month needles. To say she wailed after getting them is an understatement. I mean she bawled and cried for at least 20 minutes straight. You'd think she was being tortured by the amount of crying she did. There was this one lady in particular sitting in the waiting room who I swear was shooting daggers at me with her eyes. She continued staring at me and shaking her head. Did she think there was something wrong with Lux? Did she think I was doing something wrong as a parent? I don't know and honestly I really didn't care. The only thing I had on my mind at that moment was soothing my baby and making sure she was okay.

Sure Lux may have had a touch of colic and of course she gets fussy when she's hungry or tired but that only makes up a small portion of my amazing little girl.

She flashes me that big toothless grin countless times throughout the day. She sits and listens intently while I'm reading her books. She stares lovingly into my eyes and smiles as I'm singing her Part of Your World (her current favorite song) and she cuddles up and majority of the time sleeps throughout the whole night.

If that makes her a bad baby, well, I'll take that any day.

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